“I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” – Carl Jung
Everyone has insecurities. You are not alone and unique in having them.
It is when we identify with our insecurities and weaknesses that we lose confidence in ourselves, believing then who we are our and our identities are summed up in a mental construction.
Who we are cannot be defined, yet why do we define ourselves by our weaknesses, our faults and shortcomings? Why do we focus on who we should be rather than embracing who we already are? Do we not cut ourselves off from our own power magnificence and radiance when we do that?
We identify with weakness rather than strength because we are afraid of who we might be if we were to reclaim our true identity, which is beyond the self.
True confidence emerges when we let go of ourselves and become aware of a greater more vast nature that is in everyone and everything. Being is the manifestation of true confidence, it resides in the other level of consciousness that is beyond the realm of thought.
Needing to prove something and to be better than others comes out of weakness (fear) rather than strength (love).
Striving to be your best out of a deep knowing of your potential and pure capacity is real confidence.
Needing to hide behind a mask of being good enough and acceptable comes out of weakness, not strength.
How do we differentiate between true confidence and false confidence?
True confidence arises from being in touch with raw awareness and requires a letting go of ego. False confidence is afraid to show itself and hides beneath a facade of strength, courage and showmanship.
True confidence (the real self) has nothing to prove nothing to show and already is enough. But is not fear just an illusion, a separation of what is false from real?
And what is real can never change or fade. Only that which is false can be altered.
So to get in touch with true confidence, get in touch with your true nature, which never ever changes based on form or anything of this world.
To be truly confident, let go of the self that needs to prove itself and that needs to fit in in order to be good enough. That self that is always comparing and fearing falling short.
Simply let go of who you thought you were and embrace who you really are–that which is unchanging, eternal, fathomless.
Break away from the self and from its need to cling to an idea, concept, or thing, in order to define itself.
Stop defining yourself and just be who you really are. That is real confidence.
“Confidence, like art, never comes from having all the answers; it comes from being open to all the questions.” – Earl Gray Stevens