How to End Suffering

“To stop suffering, stop greediness. Greediness is a source of suffering.” – Buddha

This I know for sure, that fear can be the cause suffering.

Fear manifests itself in curious ways.

The most compelling of which is the tendency and need to identify with a self separate from others. This separate self promulgates the need to seek fulfillment outside of oneself through the perpetual chasing of accumulation and attaining through things, power and people.

Even the search for enlightenment is a searching for something in the future outside of this moment, outside of being here right now.

To be happy, is to be with what is and to be in need and want of nothing. To be content with presence, which is conditionless. It is to surrender your own desires — for isn’t greed, a manifestation of fear, the search for security, power, and status?

What if the universe, amidst your lack of fulfillment, dissatisfaction or feeling of mediocrity, is gently pointing you towards surrender and a letting go of your own desires, plans, purpose,, mission and plan? To instead trust and actually embrace the not-knowing the uncertainty?

It is non-identification and non-resistance which facilitate, create, and manifest fearlessness and true power.

Your mind, instead of being your enemy, is actually your teacher. Be the witness to your mind and be the kind, compassionate friend to the mental noise, because that is how the mental noise and the need to identification with your thoughts dissipates.

We focus our eyes on the world and define our hearts and bodies through the culturally sanctioned filter that defines worth and meaning.

We feel helpless because these definitions are not real and the mind, the incessant chatter that seeks itself in others,, in society’s voice, isn’t real. It’s a perpetual seeking and a perpetual longing that is never satisfied.

It’s exhausting.

Until we are in tune with being, all our doing is futile and not rooted in the law of abundance and potentiality. Be rooted in being and the rest will come in due time, not out of trying and effort, but because the universe intrinsically honors that which resonates the vibrational energy that is in alignment with itself.

So how do we continually practice non-identification, the key to freedom from fear?

By noticing and becoming aware, like a third party witness, of the ways in which we resist each moment that arises.

Oftentimes we contrast the present moment to how we think things should be instead of allowing things to be as they are. Whenever we place a should on anything, we are resisting the moment and not allowing it to unfold. Pain and suffering arises from this resistance.

What are your patterns of resistance–how does it show up in your life?

How do you consistently wish things to be different from how they are –can you see how this pattern of thinking leads to suffering?

All of us carry in our minds an ideal of how we think our lives should be.

What would happen if we unconditionally allowed life to be, however it is, instead of wishing it were different?

We disallow contentment through this pattern of contrasting how life is and how we think it should be. Notice how you compare your life to the picture in your mind of what it should be.

When we contrast and compare our moments we are not here. We are dwelling on the future, which is merely a mental image. We do this because we are afraid of what is. Allowing our experience of each moment to be as it is, is in essence a meditation because we are not resisting, we are allowing.

What Are You Waiting For?

“What you seek is seeking you.” – Rumi

What if you could be as happy as you will ever be, right here, right now?

What if all the financial freedom in the world could not buy you the happiness, joy and peace that you could have right here, right now?

What if the secret to having it all, was believing that you already do? Not in the material sense, but in in a way in which having “it all” would not even matter. Because when we are truly alive to each moment, when we surrender our hearts, our thoughts, our desires to the stillness that beckons us in each breathe that we take and each heartbeat that we feel, the peace that we seek in some future security or materialistic gain becomes secondary. For in each moment that we step out of the confines of our minds, we are free.

When being present to each moment, no matter the form that it takes, becomes primary, happiness no longer becomes something that we need to seek or even wait for. Our lives no longer become a paper chase, each moment no longer becomes a stepping stone, and every person no longer becomes an advantage for gain.

When we shift our purpose, we shift our meaning in the world, and happiness no longer becomes something that we wait for when x and y happens.

We resist the forms that life takes when we want things to be different than they are. We accept the forms that life takes when we allow things to be just as they are and can recognize the good in even the bad.

If who we really are is eternal and if our identities are not our thoughts and our bodies and our mortality, then why do we allow our minds to convince us that happiness is something outside of ourselves, something that needs to be sought, attained, and bought?

When we search for happiness outside of ourselves, it is only because we have not already cultivated it within ourselves. We look on the outside when we have not cultivated the awareness of that which we already are.

What are you waiting for?

Perhaps in the waiting, you have missed out on all the miracles in each moment, dreaming of the rainbow that was there all along.

Each time that we fall into the belief that the future can provide fulfillment, happiness and security, we are in alignment with the ego, fear-based thinking, that needs something outside of itself to feel complete. This is ultimately the greatest illusion and the most elusive cause of unhappiness.

Isn’t it ironic that the thing we chase after in order to bring happiness is the very thing that prevents us from being happy?

If you are looking outside of yourself for happiness, you have forgotten who you are. If you need someone or something to fulfill you, look at why you need these in the first place. The chase and pursuit of happiness outside of oneself is never-ending because it can’t be found there, in some other time or place or person.

It can only ever be found, here, regardless of the circumstances.

How Your Unconscious Beliefs Shape Your Reality

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will control your life and you will call it fate.” – Carl Jung

What stops you in your life?

What is it that holds you back from chasing your dream and doing what you have always wanted to do but haven’t?

As long as you hold onto the core belief of unworthiness, even subconsciously, your reality will be shaped by this belief.

Your actions, motivation, and ability to accomplish and fulfill your destiny [alignment with your true self] is jeopardized.

We are in alignment with who we really are, source, when we disidentify with our thoughts, with the thinking mind.

We gain ourselves when we lose ourselves.

How do we disidentify with our thoughts and this deep sense of unworthiness?

By acknowledging and recognizing how our adherence to the core belief of unworthiness influences our thoughts, beliefs, and actions.

It’s not wrong to hold onto this belief and there is no shame in doing so, because we all do it. However, as long as we live from an inner state of lack, deprivation, from this myopic
feeling that we do not deserve love and abundance, we shortchange ourselves.

How does the belief of unworthiness manifest in our lives?

When we settle because we do not believe we deserve and can have better.

When we look outwards for approval and validation.

When we stay safe and comfortable instead of challenging ourselves beyond our comfort zone. When feelings of hopelessness and despair creep into our hearts.

When we blame others instead of taking responsibility for our brokenness.

When we make excuses such as “I don’t know” because it’s always easier to make excuses than to risk losing.

As long as we hold onto the idea that we have time and that there is time to fulfill our creative passions and desires, we withhold ourselves from abundance because the only time we ever have is now.

It is a false illusion when we believe that we can find our security in some future time or place and through possessions.

In doing so we are merely seeking ourselves in a place where belonging and security cannot be found.

But our purpose can felt in our body in this moment, in the awakening of our own hearts to be fully present.

When we can unfold to this presence and stillness within ourselves, we tap into the universal source of love that drives us to dream, to do what we want– fearlessly.

Notice the voices and thoughts that arise from your conditioning, the voices that tell you that you can’t, that you don’t deserve, that you are not good enough.

For it is the continual belief in those thoughts that perpetuate a lack of fulfillment and gratification. That perpetuate a lack of motivation and direction.

When you step outside of the framework of your own thinking mind and see you for you, it is like taking the collar off and realizing that you never had to wear the collar.

It is like stepping outside of the prison cell and realizing that the door was never locked.

It is like winning the game and realizing that the only rules that existed were the ones that you created.

Stop defining yourself. Step outside of definition and into presence, being. Who you are cannot be defined. Nor can the limitless creative potential that is within you.

How to Feel More Fulfilled

“There are two ways of being rich. One is to have all you want, the other is to be satisfied with what you have.” – Anonymous

We spend most of our lives wishing and wanting things to be different from how things are and we perpetually live in a constant state of dissatisfaction.

I’ll be happy once I get a job. I’ll be happy once I quit my job. I’ll be happy once I leave this person. I’ll be happy once we get married. The list goes on.

Perhaps the frustration and dissatisfaction that we feel is a sign to make peace with where we are.

Making peace with where we are is not a matter of resigning to the life circumstances we are in and it is not taking the lazy way out by avoidance and engaging in inaction where it is needed.

Making peace with where we are is the ability to fully be where we are in complete totality and to allow our attention and presence to be fully immersed in each moment, regardless of how much we resist or dislike our current life circumstance.

Because if we cannot be happy where we are now, we cannot be happy anywhere.

That searching in and of itself represents our own resistance to what is. It is the exact opposite of acceptance.

Acceptance is the key to contentment. It is your willingness to allow you attention and present to be here, right now, no matter what.

It is your willingness, your surrendering to the way things are right now regardless of how things show up.

The conditions that we place on our ability to be happy are always changing and it is the ego that puts them there.

When you want something in your life to change, it is a pointer, a sign that something in you needs to change.

We focus on the external and forget that the external is a reflection a manifestation of the internal.

What aspects of your life–relationships, career, health–frustrate you? Do you tell yourself that once something about those aspects changes, you will be free, you will be happy?

We can’t be present because we fear the present is not enough. We fear that we are not enough. We fear that we are not doing enough. We fear that our partners are not enough. We fear that we do not have enough.

We live in this constant state of inner deprivation, looking to our outside conditions to fill this emptiness, this insatiable hunger for more in order to feel “enough.”

So we constantly ruminate about the future and its ability to provide the fulfillment we seek, the outcome that we yearn for because now is just not enough.

We tell ourselves that fulfillment, contentment, satisfaction and enlightenment are anywhere but here but that once we achieve, attain, and become this or that, then we will have made it.

And so we are never, ever truly happy.

And so our lives becomes this constant search for that culturally defined phenomena of living the American Dream. We busy ourselves, we distract ourselves, we numb ourselves.

Fulfillment cannot be found on the level of form, because form always changes.

It is when we take a step back from looking and searching, when we surrender our thinking minds to the deep stillness and presence underneath our minds, that we feel the stillness and peace that is our true nature.

When we look abide and rest in this place of inner stillness, free of mental noise, there is a deep satisfaction there.

Isn’t it ironic that the peace and satisfaction that we search for is here all along, if only we will stop running from it, and chasing illusions that we believe will provide it?