What Are You Waiting For?

“What you seek is seeking you.” – Rumi

What if you could be as happy as you will ever be, right here, right now?

What if all the financial freedom in the world could not buy you the happiness, joy and peace that you could have right here, right now?

What if the secret to having it all, was believing that you already do? Not in the material sense, but in in a way in which having “it all” would not even matter. Because when we are truly alive to each moment, when we surrender our hearts, our thoughts, our desires to the stillness that beckons us in each breathe that we take and each heartbeat that we feel, the peace that we seek in some future security or materialistic gain becomes secondary. For in each moment that we step out of the confines of our minds, we are free.

When being present to each moment, no matter the form that it takes, becomes primary, happiness no longer becomes something that we need to seek or even wait for. Our lives no longer become a paper chase, each moment no longer becomes a stepping stone, and every person no longer becomes an advantage for gain.

When we shift our purpose, we shift our meaning in the world, and happiness no longer becomes something that we wait for when x and y happens.

We resist the forms that life takes when we want things to be different than they are. We accept the forms that life takes when we allow things to be just as they are and can recognize the good in even the bad.

If who we really are is eternal and if our identities are not our thoughts and our bodies and our mortality, then why do we allow our minds to convince us that happiness is something outside of ourselves, something that needs to be sought, attained, and bought?

When we search for happiness outside of ourselves, it is only because we have not already cultivated it within ourselves. We look on the outside when we have not cultivated the awareness of that which we already are.

What are you waiting for?

Perhaps in the waiting, you have missed out on all the miracles in each moment, dreaming of the rainbow that was there all along.

Each time that we fall into the belief that the future can provide fulfillment, happiness and security, we are in alignment with the ego, fear-based thinking, that needs something outside of itself to feel complete. This is ultimately the greatest illusion and the most elusive cause of unhappiness.

Isn’t it ironic that the thing we chase after in order to bring happiness is the very thing that prevents us from being happy?

If you are looking outside of yourself for happiness, you have forgotten who you are. If you need someone or something to fulfill you, look at why you need these in the first place. The chase and pursuit of happiness outside of oneself is never-ending because it can’t be found there, in some other time or place or person.

It can only ever be found, here, regardless of the circumstances.

How to Feel More Fulfilled

“There are two ways of being rich. One is to have all you want, the other is to be satisfied with what you have.” – Anonymous

We spend most of our lives wishing and wanting things to be different from how things are and we perpetually live in a constant state of dissatisfaction.

I’ll be happy once I get a job. I’ll be happy once I quit my job. I’ll be happy once I leave this person. I’ll be happy once we get married. The list goes on.

Perhaps the frustration and dissatisfaction that we feel is a sign to make peace with where we are.

Making peace with where we are is not a matter of resigning to the life circumstances we are in and it is not taking the lazy way out by avoidance and engaging in inaction where it is needed.

Making peace with where we are is the ability to fully be where we are in complete totality and to allow our attention and presence to be fully immersed in each moment, regardless of how much we resist or dislike our current life circumstance.

Because if we cannot be happy where we are now, we cannot be happy anywhere.

That searching in and of itself represents our own resistance to what is. It is the exact opposite of acceptance.

Acceptance is the key to contentment. It is your willingness to allow you attention and present to be here, right now, no matter what.

It is your willingness, your surrendering to the way things are right now regardless of how things show up.

The conditions that we place on our ability to be happy are always changing and it is the ego that puts them there.

When you want something in your life to change, it is a pointer, a sign that something in you needs to change.

We focus on the external and forget that the external is a reflection a manifestation of the internal.

What aspects of your life–relationships, career, health–frustrate you? Do you tell yourself that once something about those aspects changes, you will be free, you will be happy?

We can’t be present because we fear the present is not enough. We fear that we are not enough. We fear that we are not doing enough. We fear that our partners are not enough. We fear that we do not have enough.

We live in this constant state of inner deprivation, looking to our outside conditions to fill this emptiness, this insatiable hunger for more in order to feel “enough.”

So we constantly ruminate about the future and its ability to provide the fulfillment we seek, the outcome that we yearn for because now is just not enough.

We tell ourselves that fulfillment, contentment, satisfaction and enlightenment are anywhere but here but that once we achieve, attain, and become this or that, then we will have made it.

And so we are never, ever truly happy.

And so our lives becomes this constant search for that culturally defined phenomena of living the American Dream. We busy ourselves, we distract ourselves, we numb ourselves.

Fulfillment cannot be found on the level of form, because form always changes.

It is when we take a step back from looking and searching, when we surrender our thinking minds to the deep stillness and presence underneath our minds, that we feel the stillness and peace that is our true nature.

When we look abide and rest in this place of inner stillness, free of mental noise, there is a deep satisfaction there.

Isn’t it ironic that the peace and satisfaction that we search for is here all along, if only we will stop running from it, and chasing illusions that we believe will provide it?

 

 

How to be Free

“Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

We hold onto our futures as though the answer to our happiness lies in them. We look towards our futures with the hopes that in them, we will find ourselves, and finally be everything we have wanted to be–more rich, more secure, more loved, more recognized.

We hold on, believing that the answer to happiness lies in a moment just a bit always away from now, when we have that relationship, that body, that house, that job, or retirement.

We live each day, looking away from where we are, to a moment that doesn’t actually exist, to an illusion of a time and place that is better than where we are.

It is as if we wear blinders over our eyes, and we refuse the present, not believing that where we are right now is enough.

But what if right now was enough? You may ask, how can right now be enough if I don’t have all that I want?

Because it is in the needing and the wanting of what you don’t have that actually separates you from being content, today, right now.

And it is in the letting go, the surrender, of the need and desire for anything in the future, that frees and liberates you to actually enjoy where you are right now.

There is something so scary about letting go of the desire for future, for things, for material wealth and accolade, because everyone else has these goals right? Perhaps our culture / society is blinded into believing these things are the meaning of happiness.

Because even when you have such and such, go whereabouts, and are so and so, you still have to face this moment.

No matter what you consume, materialistically, monetarily, with your eyes ears and mouth, you still are confronted with the stillness, the emptiness, the aloneness, the stark reality of this moment.

When you hold onto the future as your source of joy, you see this moment as merely a means to an end. When the moment because a stepping stone, your life becomes a myriad of stepping stones, leading to a future that never actually comes. And the joy that you thought was in the future becomes like a mirage–so close yet so far.

Surrender and dying to the self has many meanings, but I understand it to mean letting go of the need for anything in order to feel whole and complete. Why cut yourself off from completeness, wholeness, aliveness, life itself, when you can feel and be all that now? I’m not telling you to negate desire for things or anything for that matter. But watch out for desire. Because it has a tricky tendency of convincing us that we need more outside of ourselves in order to be fulfilled, in order to “make it” in the eyes of the world.

What happens when you let go of these contingencies, these wants and needs of the flesh? You are free to be here, fully, now, no matter what.

Not when you have this or that and not when you think you are this or that. When there is no more contingency on your awareness and your attention to be fully present to the moment, there is no more contingency to for happiness. You are free.
The very limits and conditions that you place for yourself and define as “happiness” becomes the very wall that blocks you from experiencing, from living. Who knows what the future holds, but all I know is that it feels good to be free of the need for anything to be happy. I can be happy, now, no matter what.

“Freedom is the oxygen of the soul.” – Moshie Dayan